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(src)="1"> A Danger That Concerns Every Parent
(trg)="1"> Kotsi Eo Batsoali Bohle ba Tšoenyehileng ka Eona

(src)="2"> HEATHER and Scott are a vivacious , happy couple , the parents of a bright , healthy three - year - old boy .
(trg)="2"> HEATHER le Scott ke banyalani ba sehlahlo , ba thabileng ba nang le mora ea lilemo li tharo ea bohlale le ea ipheletseng hantle .

(src)="3"> * They take good care of their son .
(trg)="3"> * Ba hlokomela mora enoa oa bona hantle .

(src)="4"> In today’s world , that is no easy job .
(trg)="4"> Mehleng ea kajeno , ona hase mosebetsi o bobebe .

(src)="5"> It involves a wide array of worries and responsibilities .
(trg)="5"> O akarelletsa ho tšoenyeha ka lintho tse ngata le boikarabelo bo boholo .

(src)="6"> There are so many things that children need to be taught !
(trg)="6"> Ho na le lintho tse ngata haholo tseo bana ba lokelang ho li rutoa !

(src)="7"> Heather and Scott feel strongly about one responsibility in particular : They want to protect their child from the dangers of sexual abuse .
(trg)="7"> Heather le Scott ba amehile haholo ka hore ba phethe boikarabelo bo itseng ka ho khetheha : Ba batla ho sireletsa ngoana oa bona kotsing ea ho hlekefetsoa ka tsa thobalano .

(src)="8"> Why ?
(trg)="8"> Hobane’ng ?

(src)="9"> “ My father was a cold , angry drunk , ” Heather says .
(trg)="9"> Heather o re : “ Ntate e ne e se motho ea mosa , o ne a le bohale ’ me a e - noa haholo .

(src)="10"> “ He beat me terribly , and he molested me and my sisters . ”
(trg)="10"> O ne a nkotla haholo , ’ me ’ na le banab’eso ba banana a re hlekefetsa ka tsa thobalano . ”

(src)="11"> * It is widely agreed that such abuse can inflict deep emotional scars .
(trg)="11"> * Batho ba bangata baa lumela hore ho hlekefetsa ho joalo ho siea maqeba a tebileng maikutlong .

(src)="12"> No wonder Heather is determined to protect her son !
(trg)="12"> Hase feela Heather a ikemiselitseng ho sireletsa mora oa hae !

(src)="13"> Scott feels the same about protecting him .
(trg)="13"> Scott o ikutloa ka tsela e tšoanang tabeng ea ho mo sireletsa .

(src)="14"> Many parents are concerned about child abuse .
(trg)="14"> Batsoali ba bangata ba tšoenyehile ka lebaka la bana ba hlekefetsoang .

(src)="15"> Perhaps you are as well .
(trg)="15"> Mohlomong le uena u tšoenyehile .

(src)="16"> Unlike Scott and Heather , you may not have come face - to - face with abuse and its effects , but you have no doubt heard shocking reports about the prevalence of this disgusting practice .
(trg)="16"> Ho fapana le Scott le Heather , mohlomong uena ha u e - s’o ka u hlekefetsoa le ho utloa liphello tsa hona , empa ntle ho pelaelo u ’ nile ua utloa ka litlaleho tse nyarosang tsa ho ata ha mokhoa ona o nyonyehang .

(src)="17"> Around the world good parents are horrified to learn what is happening to children in their area .
(trg)="17"> Lefatšeng ho pota , batsoali ba lerato ba nyarosoa ke ho utloa se etsahallang bana sebakeng seo ba lulang ho sona .

(src)="18"> Not surprisingly , one researcher in the field of sexual abuse called the rates of child abuse “ one of the most discouraging discoveries of our era . ”
(trg)="18"> Ha ho makatse hore ebe e mong oa bafuputsi tabeng ea bana ba hlekefetsoang ka tsa thobalano o ile a bitsa ho hlekefetsoa hona ho ntseng ho ata ha bana “ ntho e nyahamisang ka ho fetisisa e qalang ho bonoa mehleng ena ea rōna . ”

(src)="19"> That is certainly sad news , but are such developments surprising ?
(trg)="19"> Ka sebele tsena ke litaba tse sithabetsang , empa na ho ata ha liketso tsee hoa makatsa ?

(src)="20"> Not to students of the Bible .
(trg)="20"> Ha ho makatse ba ithutang Bibele .

(src)="21"> God’s Word explains that we are living in a troubled period of time called “ the last days , ” a time marked by a prevalence of “ fierce ” behavior , when people would be “ lovers of themselves ” and would have “ no natural affection . ” ​ — 2 Timothy 3 : 1 - 5 .
(trg)="21"> Lentsoe la Molimo le hlalosa hore re phela mehleng e tletseng likhathatso e bitsoang ‘ matsatsi a ho qetela , ’ mehla e tšoauoang ka ho ata ha batho ba “ bohale bo tšosang , ” bao e neng e tla ba “ baithati , ” ’ me e be “ ba se nang lerato la tlhaho . ” — 2 Timothea 3 : 1 - 5 .

(src)="22"> Sexual abuse is a daunting issue .
(trg)="22"> Ho hlekefetsoa ka tsa thobalano ke qaka e tšosang .

(src)="23"> Indeed , some parents feel overwhelmed when they contemplate the sheer wickedness of the people who seek out children to abuse them sexually .
(trg)="23"> Ka sebele , batsoali ba bang ba sithabela habohloko ha ba nahana bokhopo bo feteletseng ba batho ba tsomang bana e le hore ba ba hlekefetse ka tsa thobalano .

(src)="24"> However , is this problem too much for parents to handle ?
(trg)="24"> Empa na bothata boo bo boholo hoo batsoali ba ke keng ba sebetsana le bona ?

(src)="25"> Or are there some practical steps that parents can take to keep their children safe ?
(trg)="25"> Kapa na ebe ho na le mehato e sebetsang eo batsoali ba ka e nkang ho sireletsa bana ba bona ?

(src)="26"> The following articles will address these questions .
(trg)="26"> Lihlooho tse latelang li tla tšohla lipotso tsena .

(src)="27"> [ Footnotes ]
(trg)="27"> [ Mongolo o botlaaseng ba leqephe ]

(src)="28"> Names in this series of articles have been changed .
(trg)="28"> Mabitso a letotong lena la lihlooho a fetotsoe .

(src)="29"> Sexual abuse of a child occurs when an adult uses a child to gratify his or her own sexual desires .
(trg)="29"> Ho hlekefetsa ngoana ka tsa thobalano ho etsahala ha motho e moholo a sebelisa ngoana ho khotsofatsa takatso ea ho kopanela liphate .

(src)="30"> It often involves what the Bible calls fornication , or por·neiʹa , which could include fondling of genitalia , sexual intercourse , and oral or anal sex .
(trg)="30"> Hangata ho akarelletsa seo Bibele e reng ke bohlola , kapa por·neiʹa , e leng liketso tse akarelletsang ho pholla litho tsa botho , ho kopanela liphate le ho kenya litho tsa botho ka hanong kapa ka morao .

(src)="31"> Some abusive acts ​ — such as the fondling of breasts , explicitly immoral proposals , showing pornography to a child , voyeurism , and indecent exposure — ​ may amount to what the Bible condemns as “ loose conduct ” or “ uncleanness . . . with greediness . ” ​ — Galatians 5 : 19 - 21 ; Ephesians 4 : 19 .
(trg)="31"> Liketso tse ling tsa tlhekefetso — tse kang ho tšoara matsoele , ho bua lintho tse tsoileng tseleng , ho bontša ngoana litšoantšo tse manyala tse hlephisang boitšoaro , ho ikhotsofatsa ka ho mo sheba a hlobotse , le ho mo bontša litho tsa botho — kaofela ha tsona li ka nkoa e le “ boitšoaro bo hlephileng ” kapa “ ho se hloeke . . . ka meharo , ” e leng liketso tseo Bibele e li nyatsang . — Bagalata 5 : 19 - 21 ; Baefese 4 : 19 .

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(src)="1"> How to Protect Your Children
(trg)="1"> Kamoo U ka Sireletsang Bana ba Hao

(src)="2"> FEW of us want to dwell on the subject of sexual abuse of children .
(trg)="2"> BOHOLO ba rōna ha re batle ho bua haholo ka ho hlekefetsoa ha bana ka tsa thobalano .

(src)="3"> Parents shudder at the very thought of it !
(trg)="3"> Batsoali ba halefa haholo ha ba nahana feela ka ketso ena !

(src)="4"> Such abuse , however , is a frightening and unpleasant reality in today’s world , and its effects on children can be devastating .
(trg)="4"> Leha ho le joalo , tlhekefetso e joalo ea tšosa ’ me ke ’ nete e utloisang bohloko ea se etsahalang kajeno lefatšeng , ’ me e ka ba le liphello tse mpe haholo ho bana .

(src)="5"> Is the matter worth considering ?
(trg)="5"> Na taba ee e lokela ho sekasekoa ?

(src)="6"> Well , what would you be willing to give for the sake of your child’s safety ?
(trg)="6"> U ne u ka ikemisetsa ho tela eng hore u sireletse ngoana oa hao ?

(src)="7"> Learning about the unpleasant realities of abuse is surely a small price to pay .
(trg)="7"> Ruri u ne u tla be u tela ho fokolang feela ha u ithuta ka liketsahalo tse sa thabiseng tsa ho hlekefetsoa ha bana .

(src)="8"> Such knowledge can really make a difference .
(trg)="8"> Ka sebele ho tseba ka seo ho ka etsa phapang e khōlō .

(src)="9"> Do not let the plague of abuse rob you of your courage .
(trg)="9"> U se ke ua lumella seoa sena sa ho hlekefetsa bana hore se u qete matla a ho tobana le sona .

(src)="10"> At the very least , you have power that your child does not have ​ — strengths that it will take years , even decades , for your child to gain .
(trg)="10"> Bonyane uena u na le matla ao ngoana oa hao a se nang ’ ona — litšobotsi tseo ngoana oa hao a tla nka lilemo , mohlomong tse mashome , hore a be le tsona .

(src)="11"> The passing years have brought you a fund of knowledge , experience , and wisdom .
(trg)="11"> Lilemo tseo u li phetseng li u file tsebo e ngata , phihlelo le bohlale .

(src)="12"> The key is to enhance those strengths and put them to use in protecting your child .
(trg)="12"> Hore u atlehe , u lokela ho sebelisa litšobotsi tseo ho sireletsa ngoana oa hao .

(src)="13"> We will discuss three basic steps that every parent can take .
(trg)="13"> Re tla tšohla mehato e meraro ea bohlokoa eo motsoali e mong le e mong a lokelang ho e nka .

(src)="14"> They are as follows : ( 1 ) Become your child’s first line of defense against abuse , ( 2 ) give your child some needed background education , and ( 3 ) equip your child with some basic protective tools .
(trg)="14"> Eona ke e latelang : ( 1 ) E - ba oa pele tabeng ea ho sireletsa ngoana oa hao hore a se ke a hlekefetsoa , ( 2 ) ruta ngoana oa hao hantle ka se etsahalang bothateng bona , ebe u ( 3 ) hlomella ngoana oa hao hore na a itšireletse joang .

(src)="15"> Are You the First Line of Defense ?
(trg)="15"> Na U ba oa Pele ho Sireletseng Ngoana oa Hao ?

(src)="16"> The primary responsibility for protecting children against abuse belongs to parents , not to children .
(trg)="16"> Batsoali ke bona ba nang le boikarabelo bo boholo ba ho sireletsa bana hore ba se ke ba hlekefetsoa , hase boikarabelo ba bana .

(src)="17"> So educating parents comes before educating children .
(trg)="17"> Ka hona , batsoali ba lokela ho rutoa pele ho ka rutoa bana .

(src)="18"> If you are a parent , there are a few things you need to know about child abuse .
(trg)="18"> Haeba u motsoali , ho na le lintho tse ’ maloa tseo u lokelang ho li tseba ka ho hlekefetsoa ha bana .

(src)="19"> You need to know who abuse children and how they go about it .
(trg)="19"> U lokela ho tseba hore na ke bo - mang ba hlekefetsang bana le hore na ba sebelisa mekhoa efe .

(src)="20"> Parents often think of molesters as strangers who lurk in the shadows , seeking ways to kidnap and rape children .
(trg)="20"> Ka tloaelo batsoali ba nahana hore batho ba hlekefetsang bana ke batho ba sa tsejoeng ba lallang bana mafifing , ba batla litsela tsa ho ba koetela le ho ba beta .

(src)="21"> Such monsters certainly do exist .
(trg)="21"> Ke ’ nete hore linonnori tse joalo li teng .

(src)="22"> The news media bring them to our attention very often .
(trg)="22"> Mecha ea litaba e re bolella ka tsona hangata .

(src)="23"> However , they are relatively rare .
(trg)="23"> Leha ho le joalo , li batla li fokola ka palo .

(src)="24"> In about 90 percent of the cases of sexual abuse of a child , the perpetrator is someone the child already knows and trusts .
(trg)="24"> Hoo e ka bang karolo ea 90 lekholong ea bana ba hlekefelitsoeng ka tsa thobalano , hangata ba hlekefelitsoe ke motho eo ba mo tsebang le eo ba mo tšepang .

(src)="25"> Naturally , you do not want to believe that an affable neighbor , teacher , health - care worker , coach , or relative could lust after your child .
(trg)="25"> Ke tlhaho hore u se ke ua lumela hore ngoana oa hao a ka nanareloa ke moahelani ea mosa , tichere , ngaka kapa mooki , mokoetlisi kapa mong ka uena .

(src)="26"> In truth , most people are not like that .
(trg)="26"> Ha e le hantle batho ba bangata ha ba joalo .

(src)="27"> There is no need to become suspicious of everybody around you .
(trg)="27"> Ha ho hlokahale hore u belaelle motho e mong le e mong ea haufi le uena .

(src)="28"> Still , you can protect your child by learning how the typical abuser operates . ​ — See the box on page 6 .
(trg)="28"> Empa u ka sireletsa ngoana oa hao ka ho ithuta mekhoa eo motho ea tloaetseng ho hlekefetsa bana a e sebelisang . — Bona lebokose leqepheng la 6 .

(src)="29"> Knowing such tactics can make you , the parent , better prepared to act as the first line of defense .
(trg)="29"> Ho tseba mekhoa e joalo ho ka u thusa u le motsoali hore e be uena oa pele ea itokiselitseng hantle ho sireletsa ngoana oa hao .

(src)="30"> For instance , if someone who appears more interested in children than in adults singles out your child for special attention and gifts or offers free babysitting or private excursions with your child , what will you do ?
(trg)="30"> Ka mohlala , haeba motho e mong a bonahala a thahasella bana ho feta batho ba baholo , ’ me a qolla ngoana oa hao , a mo tšoara ka tsela e khethehileng a bile a mo fa limpho , kapa a ithaopela ho sala le eena kapa ho intša le eena , u tla etsa’ng ?

(src)="31"> Decide that the person must be a molester ?
(trg)="31"> Na u tla etsa qeto ea hore motho eo ke mohlekefetsi ?

(src)="32"> No .
(trg)="32"> Che .

(src)="33"> Do not be quick to jump to conclusions .
(trg)="33"> U se ke ua potlakela ho etsa qeto .

(src)="34"> Such behavior may be quite innocent .
(trg)="34"> Ho ka etsahala hore ebe motho eo u etsa seo ka pelo e ntle .

(src)="35"> Nonetheless , it can put you on the alert .
(trg)="35"> Leha ho le joalo , seo se ka etsa hore u falimehe .

(src)="36"> The Bible says : “ Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word , but the shrewd one considers his steps . ” ​ — Proverbs 14 : 15 .
(trg)="36"> Bibele e re : “ Mang kapa mang ea se nang phihlelo o beha tumelo lentsoeng le leng le le leng , empa ea masene o nahana ka mehato ea hae . ” — Liproverbia 14 : 15 .

(src)="37"> Remember , any offer that sounds too good to be true may be just that .
(trg)="37"> Hopola hore ntho leha e le efe e bonahalang e le molemo haholo , ehlile e ka ’ na eaba e ea belaetsa .

(src)="38"> Carefully screen anyone who volunteers to spend time alone with your child .
(trg)="38"> Hlahlobisisa motho leha e le ofe ea ithaopelang ho qeta nako a le mong le ngoana oa hao .

(src)="39"> Let such an individual know that you are likely to check on your child at any time .
(trg)="39"> Tsebisa motho eo hore neng kapa neng u ka hlaha moo ba leng teng ho bona hore na ngoana oa hao o ntse a ea joang .

(src)="40"> Melissa and Brad , young parents of three boys , are cautious about leaving a child alone with an adult .
(trg)="40"> Melissa le Brad bao e leng batsoali ba bashanyana ba banyenyane ba bararo , ba hlokolosi tabeng ea ho siea ngoana a le mong le motho e moholo .

(src)="41"> When one son had music lessons at home , Melissa told the instructor : “ I’ll be in and out of the room while you’re here . ”
(trg)="41"> Ha mora oa bona e mong a ne a ithuta ’ mino lapeng , Melissa o ile a bolella motho ea mo rutang ’ mino : “ Ha u ntse u le teng , nako le nako ke tla kena ka moo le leng ka teng . ”

(src)="42"> Such vigilance may sound extreme , but these parents would rather be safe than sorry .
(trg)="42"> Ho ba hlokolosi joalo ho ka ’ na ha utloahala e se e le ho feteletsa taba , empa batsoali bana ba ne ba sa rate ho haha serobe phiri e se e jele .

(src)="43"> Be actively involved in your child’s activities , friendships , and schoolwork .
(trg)="43"> Thahasella ka hohle - hohle lintho tseo ngoana oa hao a li etsang , metsoalle ea hae le mosebetsi oa hae oa sekolo .

(src)="44"> Learn all the details about any planned excursion .
(trg)="44"> Tseba ntho e ’ ngoe le e ’ ngoe ka leeto leha e le lefe le lekhutšoaane leo ngoana a tla le nka le ba bang .

(src)="45"> One mental - health professional who spent 33 years working with cases of sexual abuse notes that he has seen countless cases that could have been prevented by simple vigilance on the parents ’ part .
(trg)="45"> Setsebi se seng sa mafu a kelello se qetileng lilemo tse 33 se sebetsana le litaba tsa ho hlekefetsa ka tsa thobalano se re ho bile le maemo a mangata ao ho ’ ona ngoana a ka beng a sa ka a hlekefetsoa hoja batsoali ba ne ba bile hlokolosi .

(src)="46"> He quotes one convicted molester as saying : “ Parents literally give us their children . . . .
(trg)="46"> Se qotsa mantsoe a mohlekefetsi e mong ea fumanoeng a le molato , a reng : “ Ha e le hantle batsoali ke bona ba re fang bana ba bona . . . .

(src)="47"> They sure made it easy for me . ”
(trg)="47"> Ruri ba ile ba etsa hore lintho li be bobebe ho ’ na . ”

(src)="48"> Remember , most molesters prefer easy targets .
(trg)="48"> Hopola hore bahlekefetsi ba bangata ba rata bana ba ke keng ba ba sokolisa .

(src)="49"> Parents who are actively involved in their children’s lives make their children difficult targets .
(trg)="49"> Batsoali ba thahasellang ka hohle - hohle bophelo ba bana ba bona ba etsa hore ho se ke ha e - ba bonolo hore ba hlekefetsoe .

(src)="50"> Another way to act as your child’s first line of defense is to be a good listener .
(trg)="50"> Tsela e ’ ngoe e ka u thusang hore e be uena oa pele ho sireletseng ngoana oa hao ke ka ho mo mamela ka hloko .

(src)="51"> Children will rarely disclose abuse directly ; they are too ashamed and worried about the reaction .
(trg)="51"> Ke seoelo bana ba ka buang ka ho toba ka ho hlekefetsoa ; ba ba lihlong kapa ba tšaba hore na ba bang ba tla ikutloa joang ha ba utloa seo .

(src)="52"> So listen carefully , even for subtle clues .
(trg)="52"> Ka hona , mamela ka hloko , esita le tabanyana e poteletseng e ka ’ nang ea u hlaha leseling .

(src)="53"> * If your child says something that concerns you , calmly use questions to draw him out .
(trg)="53"> * Haeba ngoana a bua ntho e u tšoenyang , ka bonolo mo botse lipotso tse ka etsang hore a bue .

(src)="54"> * If he says that he does not want a certain babysitter to come back , ask why .
(trg)="54"> Haeba a re ha a sa batla hore motho ea itseng a tl’o sala le eena hape , mo botse hore na ke hobane’ng ha a sa batle .

(src)="55"> If he says that an adult plays funny games with him , ask him : “ What kind of game ?
(trg)="55"> Haeba a re motho ea itseng ea moholo o mo bapalisa ka tsela e makatsang , mo botse : “ O u bapalisa joang ?

(src)="56"> What does he do ? ”
(trg)="56"> O etsa’ng ? ”

(src)="57"> If he complains that someone tickled him , ask him , “ Where did he tickle you ? ”
(trg)="57"> Haeba a tletleba ka hore motho ea itseng o ile a mo tsikinyetsa , mo botse , “ O ne a u tsikinyetsa hokae ? ”

(src)="58"> Do not be quick to dismiss a child’s answers .
(trg)="58"> U se ke ua potlakela ho lahlela likarabo tsa ngoana matjoing .

(src)="59"> Abusers tell a child that no one will believe him ; all too often , that is true .
(trg)="59"> Bahlekefetsi ba bolella bana hore ha ho na motho ea tla ba kholoa ; ’ me hangata seo ke ’ nete .

(src)="60"> And if a child has been abused , being believed and supported by a parent is a big step toward recovery .
(trg)="60"> ’ Me haeba ngoana a hlekefelitsoe , ha motsoali a lumela seo a se buang ’ me a mo tšehetsa , seo se mo thusa haholo hore a hlaphoheloe .

(src)="61"> Give Your Child Background Education
(trg)="61"> Ruta Ngoana oa Hao ka Bothata Bona

(src)="62"> One reference work on the subject of child abuse quotes a convicted molester as saying : “ Give me a kid who knows nothing about sex , and you’ve given me my next victim . ”
(trg)="62"> Buka e ’ ngoe e buang ka ho hlekefetsoa ha bana e qotsa mantsoe a mohlekefetsi e mong ea fumanoeng a le molato , a reng : “ Ha ke fumana ngoana ea sa tsebeng letho ka litaba tsa ho kopanela liphate , ke mo hlekefetsa habonolo . ”

(src)="63"> Those chilling words are a useful reminder to parents .
(trg)="63"> Mantsoe ao a nyarosang ke khopotso e ntle ho batsoali .

(src)="64"> Children who are ignorant about sex are much easier for molesters to fool .
(trg)="64"> Bana ba sa tsebeng letho ka taba ea ho kopanela liphate ba thetsoa habonolo ke batho ba hlekefetsang bana .

(src)="65"> The Bible says that knowledge and wisdom can deliver us “ from the man speaking perverse things . ”
(trg)="65"> Bibele e re tsebo le bohlale li ka re pholosa “ ho motho ea buang lintho tse khelohileng . ”

(src)="66"> Is that not what you want for your child ?
(trg)="66"> Na hase eona ntho eo u e batlelang ngoana oa hao ?

(src)="67"> Then , as your second basic step in protecting him , do not hold back from teaching him about this important subject .
(trg)="67"> Joale , mohato oa bobeli oa bohlokoa oa ho mo sireletsa ke hore u se ke ua tšaba ho mo ruta ka taba ena ea bohlokoa .

(src)="68"> How , though , do you go about it ?
(trg)="68"> Leha ho le joalo , u ka ba ruta joang ?

(src)="69"> More than a few parents find the subject of sex a bit awkward to discuss with children .
(trg)="69"> Batsoali ba bangata ba batla ba hlajoa ke lihlong hore ba buisane le bana ka taba e amang ho kopanela liphate .