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(src)="1"> HELP FOR THE FAMILY | PARENTING
(trg)="2"> Bya Kwisamba na Mwanenu pa Kwitumina Bipikichala bya Mulekese pa Foni

(src)="2"> You have heard that sexting is common among young people .
(trg)="3"> LUKATAZHO
(trg)="4"> Na mambo a kuba ano moba bantu bavula babena kwingijisha mafoni a mu lupi , kampe mwaumvwapo kala amba banyike betumina bipikichala bya mulekese pa foni .

(src)="3"> ‘ Would my teenager do that ? ’
(trg)="5"> Mwakonsha kwishikisha amba , ‘ Nanchi mwanami wakonsha kutendeka kuba bino nyi ? ’

(src)="4"> you may wonder .
(trg)="6"> Mubena kukeba kwisamba na mwanenu pa luno lukatazho .

(src)="5"> You want to discuss the matter with your child ​ — but how ?
(trg)="7"> Pano mwafwainwa kutendeka byepi ?

(src)="6"> Before answering , consider why some young people have become involved in sexting and why you should be concerned .
(trg)="8"> Saka mukyangye kukumbula buno bwipuzho , monai bintu bimo bilengela banyike kutendeka kwitumina bipikichala bya mulekese , ne ene mambo o mwafwainwa kutelako muchima .

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(src)="8"> Some teenagers send sexually explicit messages to flirt with someone they like .
(trg)="10"> KILENGELA
(trg)="11"> • Banyike bamo betumina tubyambo twa pa foni twaamba pa kwilaala pa kuba’mba basengulenga na mwanyike mukwabo ye batemwa .

(src)="9"> In other cases , a girl sends an explicit photo of herself because she is pressured by a boy to do so .
(trg)="12"> • Kimye kimo mwanyike wa mukazhi wakonsha kwikopa kipikichala kya mulekese ne kutumina mwanamulume ubena kumukanjikizha kuba byobyo .

(src)="10"> Sometimes a boy will mass forward an explicit photo of a girl either to entertain his friends or to retaliate after a breakup .
(trg)="13"> • Bimye bimo mwanyike wamulume wakonsha kutuma kipikichala kya mulekese kya wamukazhi pa kuba amba asangajike balunda nanji nangwa kushinkanya na wajinga mukambwe wanji na mambo a kumukana .

(src)="11"> Whatever the cause , a teenager armed with a cell phone can get into a lot of trouble .
(trg)="14"> Mwanyike ubena kwingijisha foni mu jino jishinda wakonsha kwiletelela .

(src)="12"> “ In the click of a button , ” says the book CyberSafe , “ lives are changed forever . ”
(trg)="15"> Buku waamba pa bya kwingijisha bulongo intaneti , utelwa’mba CyberSafe , waamba’mba “ kutumatu kipikichala kya mulekese kimo kwakonsha kutamisha bwikalo bwa muntu myaka yonse ”

(src)="13"> Many people fail to realize that once a photo goes into cyberspace , the sender loses control over how the photo will be used .
(src)="14"> In one case , reports a bulletin from the U.S .
(trg)="16"> Bantu bavula kechi bayuka’mba inge watumatu kipikichala pa intaneti , ko kuba’mba kechi ukekalapo na luusa pa byo bakekingijishanga bantu ne .

(src)="15"> Federal Bureau of Investigation ( FBI ) , an 18 - year - old girl “ committed suicide after a nude photo she had transmitted via her cell phone to her boyfriend also was sent to hundreds of teenagers in her school .
(trg)="17"> Sawakya umo kufuma ku U.S Federal Bureau of Investigation ( FBI ) washimuna’mba mwanyike wamukazhi wa myaka ya kusemwa 18 , “ wiipayile panyuma ya kuyuka’mba kipikichala kyo atumijile mukambwe wanji pa foni bekisampenye ku banyike bavula bingi pa sukulu po ajinga .

(src)="16"> Other students , who apparently continued to forward the image , allegedly harassed the girl . ”
(trg)="18"> Bana basukulu bakwabo , abo batwajijile na kusampanya kipikichala kyanji , batendekele kwendeleka uno wamukazhi . ”

(src)="17"> Sexting also raises legal issues .
(trg)="19"> Kutuma bipikichala bya mulekese kwakonsha kwikala ke mambo akatampe .

(src)="18"> In some places , for example , minors who have sent sexually explicit images to other minors have been charged with child - pornography offenses and have been required to register as sex offenders .
(trg)="20"> Kyakumwenako , mu mapunzha amo , banyike batumine bipikichala bya mulekese ku banyike bakwabo bebapelemo mambo ku kafulumende pa kuba bino .
(trg)="21"> Kabiji bebanembele mu buku mo banemba mazhina a bantu balenga mambo alamata ku bya bulalelale .

(src)="19"> As a parent , you too can be held liable if your name is on the cell - phone contract or if you fail to take measures to prevent your child from sexting .
(trg)="22"> Mu byalo bimo , bansemi bebapamo mambo inge mwanabo wamucheche walenga mambo a kutuma bipikichala bya mulekese .
(trg)="23"> BYO MWAKONSHA KUBA

(src)="20"> Set clear rules .
(trg)="24"> Lengai mizhilo ya kulondela .

(src)="21"> Although you cannot fully control your teenager’s cell - phone use , you can make sure that he or she knows your rules ​ — as well as the consequences for breaking those rules .
(trg)="25"> Nangwa kyakuba kechi mwakonsha kusopanga foni wa mwanenu kimye kyonse ne , bino mwakonsha kumona kuba’mba mwanenu wayuka mizhilo ya pa nzubo , kubikapotu ne byakonsha kufumamo inge walala yoyo mizhilo .

(src)="22"> Remember , too , that as a parent , you have the right to monitor your teenager’s cell phone . ​ — Bible principle : Ephesians 6 : 1 .
(trg)="26"> Vulukai ne kuba’mba byo muji bansemi , muji na luusa lwa kuyuka mwanenu byo engijisha foni . — Jifunde ja mu Baibolo : Efisesa 6 : 1 .

(src)="23"> Help your teenager to reason on the problem .
(trg)="27"> Kwashai mwanenu kulangulukapo bulongo pa lukatazho lufumamo .

(src)="24"> You could say : “ There are many opinions as to what constitutes sexting .
(trg)="28"> Mwakonsha kwamba’mba : “ Bavula kutuma bipikichala bya mulekese bekilumbulwila mwapusana pusana .

(src)="25"> How would you define the term ? ”
(trg)="29"> Nga obewa ulangulukapo amba ka ? ”

(src)="26"> “ What kinds of photos do you think are inappropriate ? ”
(trg)="30"> “ Ñanyi bipikichala byo umona amba kechi byawama kutuma ne ? ”

(src)="27"> “ In some places the law considers a minor who sends a nude photo of a minor to be guilty of a crime .
(trg)="31"> “ Mu mapunzha amo , kafulumende upana mambo inge mwanyike watumina mukwabo kipikichala kya mulekese .

(src)="28"> Do you think it’s that bad ? ”
(trg)="32"> Nanchi walanguluka amba kutuma bipikichala bya mulekese kwatama kya kuba muntu bamukambwilapo nyi ? ”

(src)="29"> “ Why would sexting be morally wrong ? ”
(trg)="33"> “ Mambo ka kutuma bipikichala bya mulekese o kwatamina ? ”

(src)="30"> Listen carefully to his or her reasoning , and help your teenager to think beyond the send button . ​ — Bible principle : Hebrews 5 : 14 .
(src)="31"> Think beyond the send button
(trg)="34"> Telekeshai ku byo abena kwamba ne kumukwasha kuyuka kuba’mba kyanema kulanguluka pa byatama bifumamo . — Jifunde ja mu Baibolo : Bahebelu 5 : 14 .

(src)="32"> Present hypothetical scenarios .
(trg)="35"> Ingijishainga bya kumwenako .

(src)="33"> You could say to your daughter : “ Suppose a girl is being pressured by a boy to ‘ sext ’ him .
(trg)="36"> Mwakonsha kwambila mwanenu wamukazhi amba : “ Twambe’mba mwanyike wamukazhi babena kumukanjikizha ku mwanyike wamulume kutuma ‘ bipikichala bya mulekese ’ .

(src)="34"> What should she do ?
(trg)="37"> Abya wafwainwa kuba byepi ?

(src)="35"> Give in so that she does not lose the friendship ?
(trg)="38"> Nanchi wafwainwa kuba byo babena kumukanjikizha pa kubatu amba atokeshe uno wamulume ku muchima nyi ?

(src)="36"> Refuse the request but flirt with him anyway ?
(trg)="39"> Abya wafwainwa kukana kutuma bipikichala , bino saka atwajijila kusengula nanji nyi ?

(src)="37"> End the relationship ?
(src)="38"> Tell an adult ? ”
(trg)="40"> Inyi wafwainwa kupwisha buno bulunda nangwa kubulako bakulumpe pa luno lukatazho ? ”

(src)="39"> Help your daughter to reason on the matter .
(trg)="41"> Kwashai mwanenu wamukazhi kulangulukapo bulongo .

(src)="40"> Of course , you can use a similar approach with a son . ​ — Bible principle : Galatians 6 : 7 .
(trg)="42"> Mwafwainwa kwingijisha byonka bino byambo umvwe mubena kukeba kwisamba na mwanenu wamulume . — Jifunde ja mu Baibolo : Ngalatiya 6 : 7 .

(src)="41"> Appeal to your teenager’s sense of goodness .
(trg)="43"> Mufikai mwanenu pa muchima .

(src)="42"> Ask questions such as these : How important to you is a good reputation ?
(trg)="44"> Mwipuzhai mepuzho nabiji a kuba’mba : Nanchi kwikala na byubilo byawama kwawama nyi ?

(src)="43"> What traits do you want to be known for ?
(trg)="45"> Ukeba kuyukanyikilwa ku byubilo bya mutundu ka ?

(src)="44"> How would you feel about yourself if you humiliated someone by forwarding an inappropriate picture ?
(trg)="46"> Wafwainwa kumvwa byepi inge walengesha muntu bumvu kupichila mu kusampanya kipikichala kyanji kya mulekese ?

(src)="45"> How would you feel if you took a stand for what is right ?
(trg)="47"> Wakonsha kumwenamo byepi inge watwajijila kuba byawama ?

(src)="46"> Help your teen to “ hold a good conscience . ” ​ — 1 Peter 3 : 16 .
(trg)="48"> Kwashai mwanenu ‘ kwikala na jiwi ja mu muchima jawama . ’ — 1 Petelo 3 : 16 .

(src)="47"> Set the example yourself .
(trg)="49"> Ikalai bakumwenako bawama .

(src)="48"> The Bible says that godly wisdom is chaste and free from hypocrisy .
(trg)="50"> Baibolo wamba’mba maana afuma mwiulu alengela muntu kwikala wabula bubipisho kabiji wabula bukamfutumfutu .

(src)="49"> Do your values reflect those words ?
(trg)="51"> Nanchi byubilo byenu byayilamo na bino byambo nyi ?

(src)="50"> “ We need to set good examples ourselves and not view images and Web sites that could be viewed as unsavory or illegal , ” says the book CyberSafe .
(trg)="52"> Buku wa CyberSafe waamba’mba : “ Twafwainwa kwikala bakumwenako bawama kupichila mu kubula kutamba bipikichala bya mulekese . ”
(trg)="53"> [ Tubyambo twa mushi ]

(src)="51"> “ Sexting ” refers to the act of sending sexually explicit messages , photos , or videos via cell phone .
(trg)="54"> “ Kwitumina bya mulekese ” ke kisela kyavwangamo kwitumina tubyambo pa foni twaamba pa bya kwilaala , bipikichala ne mavidyo a bya mulekese .

(src)="52"> For more information , go to the jw.org Web site and read the online article “ Young People Ask ​ — What Should I Know About Sexting ? ” ​ — Look under BIBLE TEACHINGS > TEENAGERS .
(trg)="55"> Umvwe mukeba kuyukilapo byavula monai keyala wetu wa jw.org mu kizungu ne kutanga pa kamutwe ka kuba’mba “ Young People Ask — What Should I Know About Sexting ? ” — Chintai pa amba’mba BIBLE TEACHINGS > TEENAGERS .
(trg)="56"> [ Kitenguluzha pa peja 8 ]
(trg)="57"> BINEMBELO BYAKONSHA KWIMUKWASHA

(src)="53"> “ Children , be obedient to your parents . ” ​ — Ephesians 6 : 1 .
(trg)="58"> “ Anweba baana , kokelainga bansemi benu . ” — Efisesa 6 : 1 .

(src)="54"> “ Mature people . . . have their perceptive powers trained to distinguish both right and wrong . ” ​ — Hebrews 5 : 14 .
(trg)="59"> “ Bantu bakoma baji na maana a kupima bintu ne kuyuka kyawama ne kyatama kupichila mu kwiengijisha . ” — Bahebelu 5 : 14 .

(src)="55"> “ Whatever a man is sowing , this he will also reap . ” ​ — Galatians 6 : 7 .
(trg)="60"> “ Mambo kyonka muntu kyo abyala , kyo kyo akanowa . ” — Ngalatiya 6 : 7 .
(trg)="61"> [ Kitenguluzha pa peja 8 ]

(src)="56"> If talking about sexting will be awkward for you or your teen , you might try this approach :
(trg)="62"> BYO MWAKONSHA KUBA
(trg)="63"> Inge kechi mwakonsha kwisamba na mwanenu pa kisela kya kwitumina bipikichala bya mulekese ne , esekai bino byalondelapo :

(src)="57"> First , have your teen talk about what others are doing .
(trg)="64"> Patanshi , shikishai mwanenu emubuleko byubilo byuba banyike bakwabo .

(src)="58"> Then say : “ I’ve heard a lot about sexting .
(trg)="65"> Bino apa mwambe’mba : “ Naumvwako byavula pa kisela kya kwitumina bipikichala bya mulekese pa foni .

(src)="59"> Is this practice common ? ”
(trg)="66"> Nanchi bonse byo babena kuba nyi ? ”

(src)="60"> Next , find out how he or she feels about what others are doing .
(trg)="67"> Kyalondelapo , lekai ambe byo alangulukapo pa byubilo bya bakwabo .

(src)="61"> You could ask : “ Do you think people grasp the consequences of sexting ? ”
(trg)="68"> Mwakonsha ne kumwipuzha amba : “ Nanchi bantu bayuka bubi buji mu kwitumina bipikichala bya mulekese nyi ? ”

(src)="62"> Then , discuss what your teenager would do .
(trg)="69"> Panyuma ya bino , isambai nanji pa byo akonsha kuba .

(src)="63"> Respond by saying : “ Let’s talk about what you should do if you receive an explicit text . ”
(trg)="70"> Mwakonsha kwamba’mba “ Twaya twisambe pa byo wafwainwa kuba inge bakutumina kipikichala kya mulekese . ”

(src)="64"> Tip : You could use a news report to start a discussion .
(trg)="71"> Bya kutendeka kwisamba : Pa kutendeka mwisambo , mwakonsha kwamba pa sawakya wa byamwekele .

(src)="65"> For example : “ I read about a girl whose explicit photo was forwarded all over her school .
(trg)="72"> Kyakumwenako , mwakonsha kwamba’mba : “ Natangilepo pa jashi jimo ja mwanyike wamukazhi ye bakopele bipikichala bya mulekese ne kwibisampanya pa sukulu yense .

(src)="66"> Does this kind of thing really happen ? ”
(trg)="73"> Nanchi bintu bya uno mutundu bimweka nyi ? ”

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(src)="1"> © 2016 Watch Tower Bible and Tract Society of Pennsylvania
(trg)="1"> © 2016 Watch Tower Bible and Tract Society of Pennsylvania

(src)="2"> This publication is not for sale .
(trg)="2"> Uno buku kechi wa kupotesha ne .

(src)="3"> It is provided as part of a worldwide Bible educational work supported by voluntary donations .
(trg)="3"> Ke wa kwingijisha mu mwingilo wa kufunjisha bantu Baibolo mwaya ntanda yonse utundaikwa na bupe .

(src)="4"> To make a donation , please visit www.jw.org .
(trg)="4"> Inge mukeba kupanako bupe , yai pa www.jw.org .

(src)="5"> Unless otherwise indicated , Scripture quotations are from the modern - language New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures .
(trg)="5"> Baibolo ye twaingijisha ke Baibolo wa Binembelo bya Ntanda Ipya , kanatu po twamwesha ungi .

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(src)="1"> HELP FOR THE FAMILY | MARRIAGE
(trg)="1"> BYA KUKWASHA KISEMI | MASONGOLA

(src)="2"> When you and your spouse discuss a problem , do you seem to end up further apart than when you started the conversation ?
(trg)="2"> Inge mubena kwisamba pa lukatazho na bena kwenu , nanchi mukankalwa kupwisha mwisambo saka mwaji kutendekatu bulongo kwisamba nyi ?

(src)="3"> If so , you can improve the situation .
(trg)="3"> Inge byo byo kikala , mwakonsha kuba byepi ?

(src)="4"> First , though , there are a few things you should know about the different communication styles of men and women .
(trg)="4"> Patanshi , mwafwainwa kuyuka’mba jishinda banabakazhi jo besambilamo pa makatazho japusana na ja banabalume .

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(src)="6"> Women usually prefer to talk out a problem before hearing a solution .
(trg)="6"> Banabakazhi bakeba kwisamba pa makatazho saka bakyangye kuyuka bya kwiapwisha .

(src)="7"> In fact , sometimes talking is the solution .
(trg)="7"> Bimye bimo , kwisamba ko kupwisha lukatazho .

(src)="8"> “ I feel better when I have expressed my feelings and know that my husband understands me .
(trg)="8"> “ Ñumvwa bingi bulongo inge naamba biji ku muchima ne kuyuka’mba bamwatawami bayuka byo mbena kumvwa .

(src)="9"> After I talk about it , I’m over it ​ — usually within just minutes after the conversation . ” ​ — Sirppa .
(trg)="9"> Inge naambapotu , kifuma ne ku muchima mu kimye kichechetu . ” — Ba Sirppa .

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(src)="11"> “ I can’t move on if I don’t have a chance to explain to my husband exactly how I feel .
(trg)="11"> “ Nkankalwa kulubako ku lukatazho inge kechi nesambapo na bamwatawami ne kwibabuula byo mbena kulanguluka ne .

(src)="12"> Talking it out is a form of closure for me . ” ​ — Ae - Jin .
(trg)="12"> Kwibabula biji ku muchi kunkwasha kuleka kwakamwa . ” — Ba Ae - Jin .

(src)="13"> “ It’s like detective work .
(trg)="13"> “ Kiji nobe muntu ubena kukebakeba bishinka .

(src)="14"> As I talk , I’m analyzing each step of the problem and trying to get to the root of it . ” ​ — Lurdes .
(trg)="14"> Byo tubena kwisamba , kinkwasha kupitulukamo mu lukatazho ne kumona mwa kwilupwishisha . ” — Ba Lurdes .

(src)="15"> Men tend to think in terms of solutions .
(trg)="15"> Banabalume balangulukatu pa bya kupwisha makatazho .

(src)="16"> That is understandable because fixing things makes a man feel useful .
(trg)="16"> Kino kijitu bulongo , mambo kupwisha makatazho ye mwingilo wibafwainwa .

(src)="17"> Offering solutions is his way of showing his wife that she can rely on him for help .
(trg)="17"> Jino jo jishinda jo bamwesheshamo bakazhi babo amba bakonsha kunyemena kwi abo kimye kyonse kyo baji na lukatazho .

(src)="18"> So husbands are baffled when their solutions are not readily accepted .
(trg)="18"> Onkao mambo , banabalume bakumya pa kumona bakazhi babo kebabule kulondela byo bebabuula .

(src)="19"> “ I can’t understand why you would talk about a problem if you didn’t want a solution ! ”
(src)="20"> says a husband named Kirk .
(trg)="19"> Ba Kirk baambile’mba : “ Kechi nayuka banabakazhi kyo batemenwa kwamba pa makatazho kwa kubula kukeba mashinda a kwiapwishishamo . ”

(src)="21"> But “ understanding must precede advice , ” warns the book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work .
(trg)="20"> Buku wa kuba’mba The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work , waamba’mba : “ Saka mukyangye kubuula muntu bya kuba , mwafwainwa kuyuka byo abena kulanguluka .

(src)="22"> “ You have to let your partner know that you fully understand and empathize with the dilemma before you suggest a solution .
(trg)="21"> Mwafwainwa kutekenesha bena kwenu ne kwibamwesha’mba mwayuka byo babena kumvwa saka mukyangye kwibabuula bya kuba pa lolo lukatazho .

(src)="23"> Oftentimes your spouse isn’t asking you to come up with a solution at all ​ — just to be a good listener . ”
(trg)="22"> Javula bena kwenu inge bakeba kwisamba nenu , kine kintu kyo bakeba ke kwibateleka , kechi kwibabuula bya kupwisha lukatazho ne . ”

(src)="24"> For husbands : Practice empathetic listening .
(trg)="23"> Banabalume : Telekainga na muchima yense .

(src)="25"> A husband named Tomás says : “ Sometimes after listening I think to myself , ‘ That didn’t accomplish anything . ’
(trg)="24"> Ba Tomás baambile’mba : “ Panyuma ya kuteleka ku mukazhami , neipuzha’mba , ‘ Pano naubapo ka byo natelekatu ? ’

(src)="26"> But often that’s all my wife needs ​ — a listening ear . ”
(trg)="25"> Bino mvuluka’mba javula mukazhami kyo akeba ke kumutelekatu kwapwa . ”

(src)="27"> A husband named Stephen would agree .
(src)="28"> “ I find it best to let my wife express herself without interrupting , ” he says .
(trg)="26"> Ba Stephen nabo baambile’mba : “ Kinkwasha bingi inge naleka mukazhami waamba byonse byo abena kulanguluka kwa kubula kumuchibikizha .

(src)="29"> “ More often than not , she finishes and tells me she feels a lot better . ”
(trg)="27"> Javula inge wapwisha kwamba , umvwa ne ku muchima kwakasuluka . ”

(src)="30"> Try this : The next time you discuss a problem with your wife , resist the urge to give unsolicited advice .
(trg)="28"> Esekai bino : Kimye kikwabo kyo mukesambanga pa lukatazho na bakazhi benu , kange mukafikenetu kwibabuula bya kuba ne .

(src)="31"> Make eye contact , and focus on what she is saying .
(src)="32"> Nod in agreement .
(trg)="29"> Mukebatajishenga ne kutako muchima ku byo bakambanga , saka mubena kwinuna mutwe , kumwesha’mba mwaswisha byo baamba .

(src)="33"> Repeat the gist of what she says to show that you get the point .
(trg)="30"> Mwakonsha kubwezhapo kishinka kimo kyo baji kwamba , ko kumwesha’mba mwaumvwa .

(src)="34"> “ Sometimes my wife just needs to know that I understand her and that I’m on her side , ” says a husband named Charles . ​ — Bible principle : James 1 : 19 .
(trg)="31"> Ba Charles baambile’mba : “ Kimo kimye bakazhi bami bakebatu kuyuka’mba naumvwa byo babena kwamba kabiji mbena kuswisha milanguluko yabo . ” — Jifunde ja mu Baibolo : Yakoba 1 : 19 .