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(src)="2"> HEATHER and Scott are a vivacious , happy couple , the parents of a bright , healthy three - year - old boy .
(trg)="1"> HEATHER and Scott are a vivacious , happy couple , the parents of a bright , healthy three - year - old boy .

(src)="3"> * They take good care of their son .
(trg)="2"> * They take good care of their son .

(src)="4"> In today’s world , that is no easy job .
(trg)="3"> In today’s world , that is no easy job .

(src)="5"> It involves a wide array of worries and responsibilities .
(trg)="4"> It involves a wide array of worries and responsibilities .

(src)="6"> There are so many things that children need to be taught !
(trg)="5"> There are so many things that children need to be taught !

(src)="7"> Heather and Scott feel strongly about one responsibility in particular : They want to protect their child from the dangers of sexual abuse .
(trg)="6"> Heather and Scott feel strongly about one responsibility in particular : They want to protect their child from the dangers of sexual abuse .

(src)="8"> Why ?
(trg)="7"> Why ?

(src)="9"> “ My father was a cold , angry drunk , ” Heather says .
(trg)="8"> “ My father was a cold , angry drunk , ” Heather says .

(src)="10"> “ He beat me terribly , and he molested me and my sisters . ”
(trg)="9"> “ He beat me terribly , and he molested me and my sisters . ”

(src)="11"> * It is widely agreed that such abuse can inflict deep emotional scars .
(trg)="10"> * It is widely agreed that such abuse can inflict deep emotional scars .

(src)="12"> No wonder Heather is determined to protect her son !
(trg)="11"> No wonder Heather is determined to protect her son !

(src)="13"> Scott feels the same about protecting him .
(trg)="12"> Scott feels the same about protecting him .

(src)="14"> Many parents are concerned about child abuse .
(trg)="13"> Many parents are concerned about child abuse .

(src)="15"> Perhaps you are as well .
(trg)="14"> Perhaps you are as well .

(src)="16"> Unlike Scott and Heather , you may not have come face - to - face with abuse and its effects , but you have no doubt heard shocking reports about the prevalence of this disgusting practice .
(trg)="15"> Unlike Scott and Heather , you may not have come face - to - face with abuse and its effects , but you have no doubt heard shocking reports about the prevalence of this disgusting practice .

(src)="17"> Around the world good parents are horrified to learn what is happening to children in their area .
(trg)="16"> Around the world good parents are horrified to learn what is happening to children in their area .

(src)="18"> Not surprisingly , one researcher in the field of sexual abuse called the rates of child abuse “ one of the most discouraging discoveries of our era . ”
(trg)="17"> Not surprisingly , one researcher in the field of sexual abuse called the rates of child abuse “ one of the most discouraging discoveries of our era . ”

(src)="19"> That is certainly sad news , but are such developments surprising ?
(trg)="18"> That is certainly sad news , but are such developments surprising ?

(src)="20"> Not to students of the Bible .
(trg)="19"> Not to students of the Bible .

(src)="21"> God’s Word explains that we are living in a troubled period of time called “ the last days , ” a time marked by a prevalence of “ fierce ” behavior , when people would be “ lovers of themselves ” and would have “ no natural affection . ” ​ — 2 Timothy 3 : 1 - 5 .
(trg)="20"> God’s Word explains that we are living in a troubled period of time called “ the last days , ” a time marked by a prevalence of “ fierce ” behavior , when people would be “ lovers of themselves ” and would have “ no natural affection . ” ​ — 2 Timothy 3 : 1 - 5 .

(src)="22"> Sexual abuse is a daunting issue .
(trg)="21"> Sexual abuse is a daunting issue .

(src)="23"> Indeed , some parents feel overwhelmed when they contemplate the sheer wickedness of the people who seek out children to abuse them sexually .
(trg)="22"> Indeed , some parents feel overwhelmed when they contemplate the sheer wickedness of the people who seek out children to abuse them sexually .

(src)="24"> However , is this problem too much for parents to handle ?
(trg)="23"> However , is this problem too much for parents to handle ?

(src)="25"> Or are there some practical steps that parents can take to keep their children safe ?
(trg)="24"> Or are there some practical steps that parents can take to keep their children safe ?

(src)="26"> The following articles will address these questions .
(trg)="25"> The following articles will address these questions .

(src)="28"> Names in this series of articles have been changed .
(trg)="26"> Names in this series of articles have been changed .

(src)="29"> Sexual abuse of a child occurs when an adult uses a child to gratify his or her own sexual desires .
(trg)="27"> Sexual abuse of a child occurs when an adult uses a child to gratify his or her own sexual desires .

(src)="30"> It often involves what the Bible calls fornication , or por·neiʹa , which could include fondling of genitalia , sexual intercourse , and oral or anal sex .
(trg)="28"> It often involves what the Bible calls fornication , or por·neiʹa , which could include fondling of genitalia , sexual intercourse , and oral or anal sex .

(src)="31"> Some abusive acts ​ — such as the fondling of breasts , explicitly immoral proposals , showing pornography to a child , voyeurism , and indecent exposure — ​ may amount to what the Bible condemns as “ loose conduct ” or “ uncleanness . . . with greediness . ” ​ — Galatians 5 : 19 - 21 ; Ephesians 4 : 19 .
(trg)="29"> Some abusive acts ​ — such as the fondling of breasts , explicitly immoral proposals , showing pornography to a child , voyeurism , and indecent exposure — ​ may amount to what the Bible condemns as “ loose conduct ” or “ uncleanness . . . with greediness . ” ​ — Galatians 5 : 19 - 21 ; Ephesians 4 : 19 .

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(src)="2"> FEW of us want to dwell on the subject of sexual abuse of children .
(trg)="1"> FEW of us want to dwell on the subject of sexual abuse of children .

(src)="3"> Parents shudder at the very thought of it !
(trg)="2"> Parents shudder at the very thought of it !

(src)="4"> Such abuse , however , is a frightening and unpleasant reality in today’s world , and its effects on children can be devastating .
(trg)="3"> Such abuse , however , is a frightening and unpleasant reality in today’s world , and its effects on children can be devastating .

(src)="5"> Is the matter worth considering ?
(trg)="4"> Is the matter worth considering ?

(src)="6"> Well , what would you be willing to give for the sake of your child’s safety ?
(trg)="5"> Well , what would you be willing to give for the sake of your child’s safety ?

(src)="7"> Learning about the unpleasant realities of abuse is surely a small price to pay .
(trg)="6"> Learning about the unpleasant realities of abuse is surely a small price to pay .

(src)="8"> Such knowledge can really make a difference .
(trg)="7"> Such knowledge can really make a difference .

(src)="9"> Do not let the plague of abuse rob you of your courage .
(trg)="8"> Do not let the plague of abuse rob you of your courage .

(src)="10"> At the very least , you have power that your child does not have ​ — strengths that it will take years , even decades , for your child to gain .
(trg)="9"> At the very least , you have power that your child does not have ​ — strengths that it will take years , even decades , for your child to gain .

(src)="11"> The passing years have brought you a fund of knowledge , experience , and wisdom .
(trg)="10"> The passing years have brought you a fund of knowledge , experience , and wisdom .

(src)="12"> The key is to enhance those strengths and put them to use in protecting your child .
(trg)="11"> The key is to enhance those strengths and put them to use in protecting your child .

(src)="13"> We will discuss three basic steps that every parent can take .
(trg)="12"> We will discuss three basic steps that every parent can take .

(src)="14"> They are as follows : ( 1 ) Become your child’s first line of defense against abuse , ( 2 ) give your child some needed background education , and ( 3 ) equip your child with some basic protective tools .
(src)="15"> Are You the First Line of Defense ?
(trg)="13"> They are as follows : ( 1 ) Become your child’s first line of defense against abuse , ( 2 ) give your child some needed background education , and ( 3 ) equip your child with some basic protective tools .

(src)="16"> The primary responsibility for protecting children against abuse belongs to parents , not to children .
(trg)="14"> The primary responsibility for protecting children against abuse belongs to parents , not to children .

(src)="17"> So educating parents comes before educating children .
(trg)="15"> So educating parents comes before educating children .

(src)="18"> If you are a parent , there are a few things you need to know about child abuse .
(trg)="16"> If you are a parent , there are a few things you need to know about child abuse .

(src)="19"> You need to know who abuse children and how they go about it .
(trg)="17"> You need to know who abuse children and how they go about it .

(src)="20"> Parents often think of molesters as strangers who lurk in the shadows , seeking ways to kidnap and rape children .
(trg)="18"> Parents often think of molesters as strangers who lurk in the shadows , seeking ways to kidnap and rape children .

(src)="21"> Such monsters certainly do exist .
(trg)="19"> Such monsters certainly do exist .

(src)="22"> The news media bring them to our attention very often .
(trg)="20"> The news media bring them to our attention very often .

(src)="23"> However , they are relatively rare .
(trg)="21"> However , they are relatively rare .

(src)="24"> In about 90 percent of the cases of sexual abuse of a child , the perpetrator is someone the child already knows and trusts .
(trg)="22"> In about 90 percent of the cases of sexual abuse of a child , the perpetrator is someone the child already knows and trusts .

(src)="25"> Naturally , you do not want to believe that an affable neighbor , teacher , health - care worker , coach , or relative could lust after your child .
(trg)="23"> Naturally , you do not want to believe that an affable neighbor , teacher , health - care worker , coach , or relative could lust after your child .

(src)="26"> In truth , most people are not like that .
(trg)="24"> In truth , most people are not like that .

(src)="27"> There is no need to become suspicious of everybody around you .
(trg)="25"> There is no need to become suspicious of everybody around you .

(src)="28"> Still , you can protect your child by learning how the typical abuser operates . ​ — See the box on page 6 .
(trg)="26"> Still , you can protect your child by learning how the typical abuser operates . ​ — See the box on page 6 .

(src)="29"> Knowing such tactics can make you , the parent , better prepared to act as the first line of defense .
(trg)="27"> Knowing such tactics can make you , the parent , better prepared to act as the first line of defense .

(src)="30"> For instance , if someone who appears more interested in children than in adults singles out your child for special attention and gifts or offers free babysitting or private excursions with your child , what will you do ?
(trg)="28"> For instance , if someone who appears more interested in children than in adults singles out your child for special attention and gifts or offers free babysitting or private excursions with your child , what will you do ?

(src)="31"> Decide that the person must be a molester ?
(trg)="29"> Decide that the person must be a molester ?

(src)="32"> No .
(trg)="30"> No .

(src)="33"> Do not be quick to jump to conclusions .
(trg)="31"> Do not be quick to jump to conclusions .

(src)="34"> Such behavior may be quite innocent .
(trg)="32"> Such behavior may be quite innocent .

(src)="35"> Nonetheless , it can put you on the alert .
(trg)="33"> Nonetheless , it can put you on the alert .

(src)="36"> The Bible says : “ Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word , but the shrewd one considers his steps . ” ​ — Proverbs 14 : 15 .
(trg)="34"> The Bible says : “ Anyone inexperienced puts faith in every word , but the shrewd one considers his steps . ” ​ — Proverbs 14 : 15 .

(src)="37"> Remember , any offer that sounds too good to be true may be just that .
(trg)="35"> Remember , any offer that sounds too good to be true may be just that .

(src)="38"> Carefully screen anyone who volunteers to spend time alone with your child .
(trg)="36"> Carefully screen anyone who volunteers to spend time alone with your child .

(src)="39"> Let such an individual know that you are likely to check on your child at any time .
(trg)="37"> Let such an individual know that you are likely to check on your child at any time .

(src)="40"> Melissa and Brad , young parents of three boys , are cautious about leaving a child alone with an adult .
(trg)="38"> Melissa and Brad , young parents of three boys , are cautious about leaving a child alone with an adult .

(src)="41"> When one son had music lessons at home , Melissa told the instructor : “ I’ll be in and out of the room while you’re here . ”
(trg)="39"> When one son had music lessons at home , Melissa told the instructor : “ I’ll be in and out of the room while you’re here . ”

(src)="42"> Such vigilance may sound extreme , but these parents would rather be safe than sorry .
(trg)="40"> Such vigilance may sound extreme , but these parents would rather be safe than sorry .

(src)="43"> Be actively involved in your child’s activities , friendships , and schoolwork .
(trg)="41"> Be actively involved in your child’s activities , friendships , and schoolwork .

(src)="44"> Learn all the details about any planned excursion .
(trg)="42"> Learn all the details about any planned excursion .

(src)="45"> One mental - health professional who spent 33 years working with cases of sexual abuse notes that he has seen countless cases that could have been prevented by simple vigilance on the parents ’ part .
(trg)="43"> One mental - health professional who spent 33 years working with cases of sexual abuse notes that he has seen countless cases that could have been prevented by simple vigilance on the parents ’ part .

(src)="46"> He quotes one convicted molester as saying : “ Parents literally give us their children . . . .
(trg)="44"> He quotes one convicted molester as saying : “ Parents literally give us their children . . . .

(src)="47"> They sure made it easy for me . ”
(trg)="45"> They sure made it easy for me . ”

(src)="48"> Remember , most molesters prefer easy targets .
(trg)="46"> Remember , most molesters prefer easy targets .

(src)="49"> Parents who are actively involved in their children’s lives make their children difficult targets .
(trg)="47"> Parents who are actively involved in their children’s lives make their children difficult targets .

(src)="50"> Another way to act as your child’s first line of defense is to be a good listener .
(trg)="48"> Another way to act as your child’s first line of defense is to be a good listener .

(src)="51"> Children will rarely disclose abuse directly ; they are too ashamed and worried about the reaction .
(trg)="49"> Children will rarely disclose abuse directly ; they are too ashamed and worried about the reaction .

(src)="52"> So listen carefully , even for subtle clues .
(trg)="50"> So listen carefully , even for subtle clues .

(src)="53"> * If your child says something that concerns you , calmly use questions to draw him out .
(trg)="51"> * If your child says something that concerns you , calmly use questions to draw him out .

(src)="54"> * If he says that he does not want a certain babysitter to come back , ask why .
(trg)="52"> * If he says that he does not want a certain babysitter to come back , ask why .

(src)="55"> If he says that an adult plays funny games with him , ask him : “ What kind of game ?
(trg)="53"> If he says that an adult plays funny games with him , ask him : “ What kind of game ?

(src)="56"> What does he do ? ”
(trg)="54"> What does he do ? ”

(src)="57"> If he complains that someone tickled him , ask him , “ Where did he tickle you ? ”
(trg)="55"> If he complains that someone tickled him , ask him , “ Where did he tickle you ? ”

(src)="58"> Do not be quick to dismiss a child’s answers .
(trg)="56"> Do not be quick to dismiss a child’s answers .

(src)="59"> Abusers tell a child that no one will believe him ; all too often , that is true .
(trg)="57"> Abusers tell a child that no one will believe him ; all too often , that is true .

(src)="60"> And if a child has been abused , being believed and supported by a parent is a big step toward recovery .
(trg)="58"> And if a child has been abused , being believed and supported by a parent is a big step toward recovery .

(src)="61"> Give Your Child Background Education
(trg)="59"> Be your child’s first line of defense

(src)="62"> One reference work on the subject of child abuse quotes a convicted molester as saying : “ Give me a kid who knows nothing about sex , and you’ve given me my next victim . ”
(trg)="60"> One reference work on the subject of child abuse quotes a convicted molester as saying : “ Give me a kid who knows nothing about sex , and you’ve given me my next victim . ”

(src)="63"> Those chilling words are a useful reminder to parents .
(trg)="61"> Those chilling words are a useful reminder to parents .

(src)="64"> Children who are ignorant about sex are much easier for molesters to fool .
(trg)="62"> Children who are ignorant about sex are much easier for molesters to fool .

(src)="65"> The Bible says that knowledge and wisdom can deliver us “ from the man speaking perverse things . ”
(trg)="63"> The Bible says that knowledge and wisdom can deliver us “ from the man speaking perverse things . ”

(src)="66"> Is that not what you want for your child ?
(trg)="64"> Is that not what you want for your child ?

(src)="67"> Then , as your second basic step in protecting him , do not hold back from teaching him about this important subject .
(trg)="65"> Then , as your second basic step in protecting him , do not hold back from teaching him about this important subject .

(src)="68"> How , though , do you go about it ?
(trg)="66"> How , though , do you go about it ?

(src)="69"> More than a few parents find the subject of sex a bit awkward to discuss with children .
(trg)="67"> More than a few parents find the subject of sex a bit awkward to discuss with children .

(src)="70"> Your child may find the subject even more awkward , and he is not likely to bring it up with you .
(trg)="68"> Your child may find the subject even more awkward , and he is not likely to bring it up with you .